Patience – ‘Three Days Three Quotes’ Nomination Day 3

The last day for ‘Three Days Three Quotes,’ thanks again to the wonderful blogger over at Reveuse.

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To you three ladies, I’ve followed you three amazing women since day one of my blogging journey and have – and continue, to learn so much from you! I see your strength and vulnerability shine through in each one of your writings! Please know that you are loved, appreciated, that I admire you and continue to enjoy following your journeys!

HERE ARE THE RULES:

Thank the person who nominated you.

Post a quote for 3 days and explain why it appeals to you.

Nominate bloggers each day!

MY THIRD QUOTE:

“Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet” Aristotle

I was so intrigued to find the proper definition for patience, that Googled it. Patience is ‘the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.’

If you’ve followed my journey you know that I have chronic pain, not from time to time, not every other day, but daily. D-a-i-l-y. I like to say, I don’t have ‘good’ days,’ I have bad days and I have even worse days. And I’ll be transparent and allow my feelings to be shown through your screen. It’s my reality, anyone living with a chronic illness knows that we have to practice patience every single day. And I’m not talking about having patience with your spouse, children, co-workers, family, no! You see, we have to be patient with ourselves, be loving to myself, my body and mind, not to get upset or angry as that can trigger other symptoms like the infamous frustration, that can ultimately make things much worse.

I am my worst enemy. I beat myself up for not being a ‘normal’ woman – because who wakes up daily with pain?! I beat myself up for not being to stand for long periods of time – because my legs get so weak I’m a risk of falling. I beat myself up for allowing the everyday things ‘bother’ me – you see I am sensitive to noise, light, you know the sun is the worst for me, yes, how do shut off the world in order for me to feel ‘good.’ I beat myself up for not being able to meet others expectations – they’re just to high for me to meet. I beat myself up for not being able to get in the car for long periods of time – you see with Chiari Malformation + Syringomyelia I get nauseated in the car when riding for too long and require I keep medication on hand and bags in the car in case the need arises to regurgitate, Disney trips are as daunting as they are lovely for the children. I beat myself up for having anxiety – you see I can’t have last minute invites, last minute guests in my home, etc. my anxiety will go through the roof, I can’t do things on a ‘whim,’ I can’t do things like the ‘average’ woman can, like go to the grocery store without feeling pain run through my body, I can’t get last minute notices from my children’s teachers for a school event, my agoraphobia will prevent me from being present.

I need to have patience with myself, patience to love myself as I am, pain and all. I remind myself that I am me and there’s no one quite like me. I am beautifully made by the most high that has made me in His image. I am here to live with Chiari for reasons I am too stubborn to understand. I am doing the best that I can and I am as best of a mother as I can be. As this wonderful quote says, ‘patience is bitter, but it’s fruit is sweet.’ Yes! It’s so bitter, it’s harsh, it’s a tough reality too many times hard to accept, to face, to know! To know it’s there staring back at me …

Yet, yet! It’s fruit, it’s message, it’s everyday motivation to keep going, to keep walking is so sweet! It’s as sweet as they come, to be taught to have patience from such horrid illness is the sweet reminder of the strength that lies within me.

NOMINATIONS:

1. Magic In The Everyday

2. Simply Chronically Ill

3. Discovering Your Happiness

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Hope you all enjoy doing this unique challenge and I look forward to reading the quotes you’ve chosen!

A-

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Forgiveness + Hope – ‘Three Days Three Quotes’ Nomination Day 2

In continuation with the ‘Three Days Three Quotes’ I will not do ‘Nail File Fridays.’ I was nominated by the wonderful blogger over at Reveuse.

AND don’t forget to visit my nominees! They are such amazing women. I absolutely love following their blogs, they’re so interesting and inspirational!

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HERE ARE THE RULES:

Thank the person who nominated you.

Post a quote for 3 days and explain why it appeals to you.

Nominate bloggers each day!

MY SECOND QUOTE:

“Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different” Oprah Winfrey

I have kept this quote so dear and near to my heart – I mean how can I not?! I grew up in a single-parent home, my mother raising three kids on her own, working two to three jobs at a time, trying to make ends meet. I was the youngest of three. I was about 5 years old when I quickly realized I hated did not like the weekends with my father. I also disliked anything related to Father’s Day because at school I would be obligated to participate in making Father’s Day cards and such things. It wasn’t for any particular reason other than this meant being away from my mother – they were divorced for about 11 years, reconciled and have now been married for about 15 years. All thanks to Him. So, this quote among other things have helped me see that my father was not one, in any way a monster two, a cruel man or three, the enemy – he made mistakes because of the weakness that lies in man. We have recovered our father-daughter relationship that was once non-existent and have healed what was once broken.

Also, my Chiari Malformation + Syringomyelia Diagnosis – it’s incredibly exhausting just thinking about it! I have begun therapy which has been a great source in my journey to healing. I go back and forth thinking of the what-if’s, what if I was born different and not with Chiari – there is no such thing as having been born ‘normal,’ what if I hadn’t gotten married and maybe this wouldn’t have happened – Chiari was inevitable because I was born with it, what if I was stronger – I am as strong as I need to be, what if I could be like these other school moms without a care in the world and living pain free – looks are deceiving and I may have physical chronic pain however these other school moms I so ‘admire’ are battling other life pains.

This quote reminds me that giving up the hope that Chiari if not present in my life today things could have been different, is a lie! I am not Chiari rather I am living with Chiari. It’s given me the strength I never knew I had and that is worth not hoping my life could have been any different than what it is today.

NOMINATIONS:

1. Four Jordans

2.

3. A Disney World Adventurer

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Hope you all enjoy doing this unique challenge and I look forward to reading the quotes you’ve chosen!

A-

‘Three Days Three Quotes’ Nomination – Day 1

I’m so excited for this nomination by the wonderful blogger over at Reveuse for the ‘Three Days Three Quotes.’ I find her blog so encouraging, she speaks on all things life, love and positive thinking – love her posts! She has a way of lifting you with her words, if you haven’t gone to visit her page – you must. Thanks again Reveuse!

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AND don’t forget to visit my nominees! They are such great women with even greater blogs. I love when they post, always so inspiring and interesting each in their own right!

HERE ARE THE RULES:

Thank the person who nominated you.

Post a quote for 3 days and explain why it appeals to you.

Nominate bloggers each day!

MY FIRST QUOTE:

“I think you need to go through some stuff to really appreciate life and understand what it means to persevere, overcome and have faith. I think those tough times make you a stronger person.” Judith Hill 

I had my life significantly altered due to a few surgeries and because of this, I now live with daily chronic pain. However, I have also seen a different perspective of it all, they’ve happened to me for a reason. They’ve helped me become a stronger woman, a loving no BS kind of woman because life is too short to live for others.

NOMINATIONS:

1.Middle Me

2. My Li’l Place

3. Magic In The Everyday

Hope you all enjoy and I look forward to reading the quotes you’ve chosen!

A-

Hard Mom Days: A Kindhearted Woman Gains Respect

Hard Mom Days: A Kindhearted Woman Gains Respect

The topic of motherhood can be a bit of a free for all – some think that either you’re doing too little or not enough and their need to give unsolicited advice to tell you what you should be doing with your children. This is why, I always choose to hold opinions of others to myself. As I myself run on survival mode.

So, I’ll begin by telling you how exhausted I am, how physically draining I feel, how sleepy I feel – that sleep that has you not being able to choose whether to eat or sleep and you choose to sleep, how hungry I feel to have maybe 5 minutes to myself! Not to go out, but rather have 5 minutes without the door to my bedroom or bathroom – because you know you can’t lock the door there, continuously opening with little voices asking where my ‘X’ toy is, where my ‘X’ shoe is, where my green ‘X’ shirt is and the list goes on! Yes I am grateful for the little ones, yes I feel overwhelmingly blessed to have them, yes I know they’re growing up, yes they will grow and leave my home. Yes, yes, yes! But give me a minute to let this out! Give me a moment without judgment! It’s OK as a mom to say, I need a break – and not only on Mother’s Day, a breather, a shower, a time to do my hair, a time to eat without sharing – is that being selfish? And a time for rest!

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What a week it’s been!! I have a house full of sick kids – and I won’t remind you how many there are, because the school going children tend to bring home all the germs they can gather and then spread them to the little ones. You know, that snowball effect?! And the only not-so sick child I had, today woke up throwing up. Welcome to motherhood! The land of the unknown, where anything can happen and where all things change at any given moment. Also, where your title as mom can quickly shift from mom to nurse to lullaby singer to clean up crew person of projectile things that come out of little ones mouth to sleep rocker of sick children, just name a few. And then just like that, it’s 4 am. I am so thankful that on most days, I can gather enough strength and not take out my chronic physical pain onto the children. We mothers can do that so quickly – especially when we are exhausted and running on no sleep. If I feel overwhelmed with the children, I give myself a time out. I take this time – be it 5 minutes or 2, to practice my breathing, gather and center myself. Because as mother’s we choose which road to take with each particular child of ours. The impatient child – that can test our own patience, the not-so still child, the loud child to the one that never seems to stop the crying.

‘A kindhearted woman gains respect’ from Proverbs 11:16 is such an encouraging scripture, it serves as a reminder how yelling and anything other than showing respect to the little ones is not a solution to solving a chaotic situation. Because when I’m tired, when I haven’t had the time to eat and had very little sleep, I can get mean, fast. The voice gets higher and I get snappy. So, this is a beautiful reminder to be kind and from my kindness the children will respond kindly in return. It’s so refreshing to know that in any ‘hard’ mom day, through your actions as a mom, you will gain your children’s respect.

‘As one whom his mother comforts, so I will comfort you.’ – Isaiah 66:13 I often think that I am giving my all, to my children to my home to my spouse and at times ask, what about me, where do I stand, who comforts me?! Because as a mother, I comfort my little ones, at homework time – encouraging them, when they fall – healing them, when they can’t sleep – comforting them and when they feel scared – loving them. I say them because it makes me feel less of a priority and feel myself being pushed more and more to the far back of the line. However, this verse reminds me that I am a priority, that I am loved and that I am comforted by the most faithful of them all. With this He reminds me that as I comfort my child, He also comforts me – and you.

Hope you’ve had a wonderful Sunday.

A-

Nail File Friday’s: Essie Spring 2018 Collection – Blue Shade

Just recently in the mood for a dark blue nail shade, I found this Anchor Down from Essie. It has a little bit of a gray undertone but it’s the perfect blue shade I’ve found yet! This ‘Anchor Down’ is one of six nail shades that are part of the Essie Spring 2018 Collection. If you are interested in four of their collection try this Essie Spring 2018 Collection – Minis set, it will include ‘Anchor Down.’ They went for a Nautical Theme for this Collection and this blue shade is one to try!

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Happy Friday!

A-

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Easy 5 Days of School Braids On Pony Tails

Easy 5 Days of School Braids On Pony Tails

My oldest daughter has long hair and one thing that we have found is that physical education/PE days can be a bit of a challenge. She doesn’t like her hair down on these days because – understandably, she finds that it gets in her face and in the way – a lot! So, we have found that the best solution to this problem is to keep her hair up in a pony tail on these particular days.

What’s in my hair bin organizer?:

Clear Bin Product Organizer  or Storage Caddy with Handle – Any of these will help. I have something similar to the clear bin, it’s essential that the kids hair products are ALL in ONE place. It makes getting hair done for school so easy!

Paddle Brush

Rattail Hair Comb – Great for prepping hair into sections for braiding

Ouchless Elastic – No metal and Particularly great for thick hair

Strong + Small Clear Elastic  – Clear are just my personal preference for elastics

Johnson’s Detangling Spray – Works and smells great

Tresemme Extra Hold Hair Spray  – Tried just about every brand! Tresemme will NOT leave white flakes by the end of the school day

Spray Water Bottle – Alternate between spraying the hair with water and hair spray – a few times, will ensure an all day great school hair day. Works great with my boys too!

Baby Magic Mennen Cologne – After hair is done, I’ll put this on. It smells so good on kids – my favorite!

° Tip: After you have picked up the hair with the ouchless elastic, wet the remaining hair to prepare for braiding

Day 1 is a 4 braid pony tail, continue to divide the hair as you braid each section – not all at once and tie each as you end it with a clear elastic. Day 2 is the rope twist braid, with the rattail comb section the hair in two, begin to twist both sections to your right, continue to twist both sections to the right as you work your way on down, you can do this as tight or loose as you want. Third Image now even though this is the bubble braid – it’s so incredibly easy, that I won’t count it in my ‘5 days of school braids.’ To begin, leaving a few inches from the top, tie with an elastic and pull the hair slowly to create a bubble shape and just continue to work your way down.

Day 3 is the 3 faux fishtail braid, like the bubble braid, simple section a few inches from the top, tie with an elastic, now section the hair in two and pull the bottom remaining hair towards you and into the hole. This will give the ‘faux fishtail’ look, just continue to do this to the remaining hair.

Day 4 is the 3 in 1 braid, from the top I did the fishtail braid, simply section the hair in two and pick up hair from the outside in – pick up the same amount on both sides, put it on the opposite side working your way down – tighten the hair as you go and tie it with an elastic. Now the middle will be the rope twist braid, spray the hair with water, section the hair in two and twist both sections to the right and tie with an elastic. And the bottom is the three strand ‘regular’ braid, tie at the end.

Day 5 is the fine braid with 1 fine strand. This is just like the ‘regular’ braid, but instead of separating the hair in 3 equal parts, you’re only going to separate in 2 equal parts – leaving one thin side, not pulling on the hair tight, continue to do a ‘regular’ braid as you normally would. Now slowly pull on the thicker sections of hair to make the braid appear ‘fluffier’ or ‘thicker’ pull on the strands as much or as little as you’d like and tie at the end with an elastic. Tip: for easier pulling, finish the hair, tie at the end with an elastic and then slowly pull the thicker strands.

Happy week / school week to all!

A-

 

Photo: Celia Ortega

When Mother’s Day is Especially Hard

When Mother’s Day is Especially Hard

While Mother’s Day is a wonderful reminder for some that we’ve been blessed to be mother’s, I know that there are some that find Mother’s Day especially hard – for both men and women. This day is a bitter sweet reminder to many for many reasons. Perhaps you don’t live close to mom, you’ve lost your mom or have never met your biological mother due to adoption, or you’re a mother of an angel, experienced the loss of a son or daughter or both, or you’re not a mother but have longed to be one for so long. Whichever the case may be and your reasons you find this day particularly hard, my prayers are with you. I remember that the struggles I see, the never ending loads of toys, the tiny screams I hear, the tiny hugs I feel are not experienced by many – and are a blessing rather than a burden.

Today I not only embrace my Mother’s Day with my little ones, I keep in my heart those women who are having a hard time coping with today.

Happy Mother’s Day – Feliz dia de las Madres

Have a beautiful and blessed day.

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Photo: Kelly Sikkema