It’s rather a bit unsettling to think of the need to cut ties with someone. At times they’re friendships or even a family member. As I continue to grow, I’ve realized what I want, what I will accept and will not tolerate in friendships and overall relationships. I believe this to be an internal battle also because I was taught to love thy neighbor, to accept people as they are, and to love in the dimension of the cross. But what happens when others no longer serve a positive purpose in my life, when they no longer lift me, but rather break me. Please, don’t get me wrong, I absolutely believe we will have our moments with others when we will disagree, and we’ll forgive one another and move on. But what if this is recurring and happening constantly?! What if I consider myself a good friend and yet have come to realize a friendship in my life isn’t reciprocating the same level of love and respect for our friendship. You know, that one sided friendship, do you cut ties, do you call it quits or do you continue to accept their behavior?!
This week I bring you this wonderful post on the matter by the very talented Dr. Perry over at Make It Ultra. He lists a few suggestions he uses in his practice on how to create healthy boundaries with others. He first mentions to be honest with the other person about your feelings, not adding to the negativity and not fearing the loss of a relationship that just feeds you negativity. If you haven’t read the full post, please stop by his blog!
Written by Dr. Perry, PhD Image Credit: Pixabay “People inspire you or they drain you. Pick them wisely.” ~Hans F. Hansen We all know at least one person who seems to walk around in a state of doom and gloom. They are in short supply of joy but have an overabundance of negativity. This individual may […]
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This post I share with you today comes from Dr. Perry and it speaks on how loving yourself serves as a platform, sets the tone, as to how your friends will value your friendship in their lives. As I continue to grow older, I contemplate many times on the importance of self love and friendships. I also have come to understand that some friendships are not meant to remain in your life forever. This has even more truth when you live with Chiari Malformation + Syringomyelia, chronic pain is not for the faint of heart. And fortunately or not, you realize even more so when is the time to put an end on friendships that no longer serve well to your health and to your life in general. You know the friendships that bring on more stress than they do joy – those ‘friendships.’
I’ve realized that loving me, putting my feelings first, being compassionate for my own being, is far more important than any outside friendship. Because when you love yourself and know the value you bring as a friend when others don’t, I think that’s when it’s time to call it quits to a friendship that no longer brings positivity to your life and family. There will be a mourning period, but I simply wish them well and move on.
In this post here Dr. Perry, highlights the love and sympathy you should have for yourself, and asks, what kind of friend are you being to yourself? I think first and foremost be a friend to yourself to then know what to look for in friendships.
Written by Dr. Perry, PhD Image Credit: Pixabay “A friend is a gift you give yourself.” ~Robert Louis Stevenson What kind of friend are you? Are you attentive, kind and compassionate or, are you neglectful, uncaring and critical? Scrolling through quotes on the internet, I was reminded of the immense value we place on friendship. […]
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