Are You a Good Friend to Yourself? — MakeItUltra™ Psychology

This post I share with you today comes from Dr. Perry and it speaks on how loving yourself serves as a platform, sets the tone, as to how your friends will value your friendship in their lives. As I continue to grow older, I contemplate many times on the importance of self love and friendships. I also have come to understand that some friendships are not meant to remain in your life forever. This has even more truth when you live with Chiari Malformation + Syringomyelia, chronic pain is not for the faint of heart. And fortunately or not, you realize even more so when is the time to put an end on friendships that no longer serve well to your health and to your life in general. You know the friendships that bring on more stress than they do joy – those ‘friendships.’

I’ve realized that loving me, putting my feelings first, being compassionate for my own being, is far more important than any outside friendship. Because when you love yourself and know the value you bring as a friend when others don’t, I think that’s when it’s time to call it quits to a friendship that no longer brings positivity to your life and family. There will be a mourning period, but I simply wish them well and move on.

In this post here Dr. Perry, highlights the love and sympathy you should have for yourself, and asks, what kind of friend are you being to yourself? I think first and foremost be a friend to yourself to then know what to look for in friendships.

Written by Dr. Perry, PhD Image Credit: Pixabay “A friend is a gift you give yourself.” ~Robert Louis Stevenson What kind of friend are you? Are you attentive, kind and compassionate or, are you neglectful, uncaring and critical? Scrolling through quotes on the internet, I was reminded of the immense value we place on friendship. […]

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Reblog Wednesday: Gratitude — Tales from the Mama Duck

So, this here doesn’t require too many words. It left me speechless when I first read it and it’s leaving me speechless now. It’s so incredibly true, a picture is indeed ‘worth a thousand words.’ The post I share with you today is by the incredible blogger over at Family 5 Power – go over to her site and continue to enjoy her other incredible content!

Thank you Mama Duck for another reminder of the true meaning of Christmas.

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“Let us thank God for his priceless gift!” 2 Corinthians 15:9 GNT

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Happy Meme Monday: My Non-Christmas List

There’s always something that happens in life that makes you reevaluate future decisions. This is what has happened to me for Christmas, like the meme I share with you today.

The importance of this day has made me realize that this time of year isn’t about presents and giving out really fancy gifts. It’s not about stressing on how much money is enough or isn’t. It’s about spending time with those you love and making the most out of such a joyous occasion. So, if you don’t get to purchase something in form of an object to someone, don’t stress and know Christmas is far greater than any object you can purchase at a store.

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Happy Monday!

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Q & A Tag

Thank you so much Stuart for tagging me in this fun tag – it’ll be my very first and am excited to participate! If you haven’t read Stuarts answers to his tag you can find it here.

Here are the rules:

1. Answer the questions you receive (straight, funny, absurd, up to you)

2. Add three more questions of your own to the list

3. Tag three people

Here are the questions posed to me by Stuart:

1. If your life depended on your answer, would you deny Christ?

No. I hope that I have gained enough word as to not deny Him, not be so broken as to deny whom He has been in my life. I’ve seen Him many times, through my multiple surgeries, through my 4th child’s birth where we thought we’d lost her due to placenta previa, through my two youngest ones time in the ICU or intense care unit, following their births, through me finding an angel of a doctor being able and so willingly wanting to help me through my pregnancies. If you don’t know, all my little one’s have been born via c-section. And I continue to see His providence, everyday, with every meal my family shares at dinner time, that’s His hand over this family.

I think back on how Peter – by the way one of my boys is named Peter (meaning: rock upon where the church would be built), denied Jesus three times. It wasn’t because Peter was a coward, it was because he thought he would be protecting Jesus. However, God can take care himself just fine, He doesn’t need our protection. So, next time you or I are asked by a non-believer, a simple answer will do, something along the lines of, “I believe in Jesus and He is my Lord.”

2. Would you allow a stranger into your house to stay if you felt prompted by the Holy Spirit?

We actually have! I grew up having many brothers and sisters in the Lord staying with us as they traveled to Florida and had no place to stay. My mother opened her doors to them. Often times they were from abroad, sometimes one or married couples. She still does that to this day. She’ll also call me to have them stop by my house to introduce them to my family – it’s very sweet. I vividly remember this sweet Japanese couple staying with us, I may have been 9 or 10 years old. They had packed their chop sticks to eat, and boy did they eat! They later ‘told’ us that in Japan it is seen to be rude to not finish the food that you’ve been served. Of course, my mother would see their empty plates and assume they were hungry, and just kept serving and serving them! We had a language barrier that we were able to get through with hand gestures.

3. Why is Valentine’s Day so important when, if we truly love someone, we should be showering them with our love daily?

Valentine’s Day isn’t ‘important’ per se. We have taken in this holiday that is celebrated in this country, but we’ll usually get a few chocolates for the children and I’ll make them a card, and I’ll also make my husband a card. I agree, when you love and appreciate someone, everyday should be a day of love and celebration. I’m not only speaking in form of showering them with physical things, but serving them with much love and patience.

My Nominees:

The Eclectic Contrarian

Weeping Pines

Alethea’s Mind

My Questions To You:

1. Do you have an ‘Elf On The Shelf,’ why or why not?

2. If you could give me one circumstance where you’ve seen the Lord, when was it?

3. How do you plan on celebrating this joyous season in your home with your families?

Thanks to my nominees in advance for participating! Know that I appreciate you and your ongoing support – always.

Ana

Reblog Wednesday: Steve Harvey Cries Out to God in His Struggles: “This Too Shall Pass. Trouble Don’t Last Always.” — GODINTEREST – Christian digital media website exploring faith, culture and life

I’ve been keeping this post as a reminder that hard times don’t last. And I’m not only speaking in regards to financial troubles, but in general. I’m speaking about the times when you don’t feel good about yourself, times when you feel defeated, times when you feel lonely, times when you feel unloved and unworthy, times when you feel like things just happen to you and times when you feel like things are just never going to change for you. Those times.

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I’ll touch more about this later, briefly though, last week I had a complete thyroidectomy – or complete and total removal of my thyroid gland. This will mark my tenth surgery. And as much as I dislike hospitals, the smell, the cold air, the white coats and surgical lights, this surgery here was needed – but aren’t they all! I mention this because I had many moments that I wanted to put into question, the whys were so tempting. The why me, the why am I here again, the why am I in my mid-thirties yet feel like I’m in my mid-eighties. Those whys. Yet I was reminded of God’s infinite mercy and love for me. That he’s given me for one, health insurance, two, a great team of doctors, three, a supportive family and four, he continues to touch my life in a way so that I can look back and know that he doesn’t forget me – he’s right there with me! Because I tend to forget about him, I deviate from his path the moment things don’t go my way. Yet he continues to be so faithful to me. I also realize that – like all things in life, I can either see my illness as a curse or a blessing. And today I choose to see my illness as a blessing.

So, when you feel like you’re the only one feeling like this, living in a very complex situation, trying to figure out something so out of your reach, trying to fix something that just can’t seem to be fixed, remember you’re not alone – he’s got you.

And as Steve Harvey put it so well ….

‘Faith will get you through it because God’s going to make it alright …. because trouble don’t last always.’

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failure is a great teacher, and I think when you make mistakes and you recover from them and you treat them as valuable learning experiences, then you’ve got something to share. – Steve Harvey

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Dear 15 Year Old Me – Tag

This is so incredibly exciting! This is something that Everyday Magic With Jubilee and I have been working on for a few days, e-mailing back and forth, trying to create a wonderful tag for you all. Thank you Jubilee for trusting me and joining me in creating this phenomenal tag – I’ve enjoyed the process!

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve often times looked back, either that is on positive or negative decisions I made at the tender age of fifteen. This tag helped me dig a little deeper at what my life was like, things I went through and what I would tell the old me – all these years later. The one thing that absolutely stands out is a heartbreak I experienced at such a young age. I met a boy at fifteen, I thought we’d be in each others lives for the long run, and boy was I wrong! It’s one of those things you experience – some you wish you hadn’t, and heartbreak – at any age, but especially at a young age, can be devastating. And so here through the tag I’ll look back and I’ll share some details on that, and give the fifteen year old me some words of encouragement.

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Rules:

•  Post the tag and image above.

•  Mention the creators of the tag and link back to their blog.

This tag was created by Everyday Magic With Jubilee and Mom Life With Chiari. You can click on the highlighted names to check out more inspirational posts from their blogs. Make sure to tag them in your post so that they can read your letters of encouragement.

•  Thank whoever nominated you and link back to their blog.

•  Nominate 5 other bloggers that you love and notify them by commenting on their latest blog post.

Often times we may wish that we could go back in time and give our former selves advice and words of wisdom. If you could go back in time, what would advice or encouragement would you give to yourself?

Dear 15 year old me,

1. Don’t be hard on yourself because …

true beauty isn’t on the number you wear. Your beauty shines from within. Try healthier alternatives to losing weight, you’ve dropped down to a size 0 and are having to buy new clothes due to rapid drop in weight – I see you, and although the world celebrates a thin body, it’s making you sick. You’ll be blessed that this will only last but a short time and you’ll be saddened by what you made your body go through. Don’t be so hard on yourself, the decision to once again enjoy eating will be a great one!

2. The relationship you’re in ….

isn’t going to be forever. I see you, don’t be saddened by this. You know the words that were said, the moments that were shared, none were meant to last forever. Don’t fall so hard, I see you. You’re loving, you’re investing so much of your time, your heart, your everything, you’re risking it all, is he?! I see you, you’re believing and hanging on to his every word, I know it’s hard, to believe things won’t turn out the way he’s saying but, trust me, one day he won’t think about anyone but himself. I see you, wanting not to believe me now, but trust me, the ring, the endless flowers with handwritten notes, the album you both made together with moments shared now printed for a forever, he drew your names on the inside, I see you! Yes, it’s hard to believe that the future that you both speak about often will only be nothing more than that – spoken words. I see you, not believing me again, I know! But trust me when I tell you, that when he makes his plans to leave on vacation to his homeland, don’t give away what’s most precious, God loves you sweet girl, don’t do it! God loves you far more than this boy ever will. Why are you risking so much?! I see you, giving your heart out, is he? Oh I know his family is amazing, but does he think you are too?! You’re so much more than you know sweet girl, and a man that loves you will value you until the end. I see you, does he?

3. You will get through this because …

you are stronger than you think you are, you just don’t know it yet. You’ll run into many walls because you’re so angry and hurt by the break up – don’t be, stop and mourn! If you don’t mourn, you will continue to be angry and on a path to self destruction, it isn’t your fault it didn’t work out, it never was, I see you! Thinking you’ve lost years of yourself, you’ve lost your heart, you think you made a fool out of yourself – don’t! Somethings are worth risking and sometimes heartbreak comes in different forms, I know, I’m sorry it happened too. But stop what you’re doing and dig deep in yourself to overcome these feelings, because living in darkness will do nothing but destroy you. You’re working by day and being angry at night. You’re upset thinking that you’re alone in your feelings, and no one understands the loss that you’ve experienced! A pregnancy will come out of your actions, this is what God has in His plans for you, to save you! Otherwise, you will continue down the wrong path and you will thank your baby girl everyday for being such a sweet girl.

4. Don’t get caught up in thinking …

you are weak, you’re not! Believing something someone says doesn’t make you weak, or naive, it makes you in tune with your feelings, it makes you a risk taker, you risked it all! You will slowly begin to restore the faith you had in men and you will slowly begin to open your heart again. You will go through so much, you will be diagnosed with a rare illness, Chiari Malformation + Syringomyelia – 1 in 1,000 people have it, because you’re so strong! I see you, you don’t believe you can take on this illness, but you will – with all the strength you have in you! You’ve dealt with the news as best as you could, being positive and praying for strength – you’ve got strength! You’ll also be a mom to six little ones, I know – how amazing! That doctor that told you today you weren’t going to be able to carry a child due to the state of your ovaries, God is far greater than any of that! Don’t take the medication, God’s going to heal you and you will carry not one child, but six. You’ll be criticized, judged, and persecuted for having your babies but have courage, because they’re your gifts from Him. You’ll have six c-sections, I told you, you weren’t weak, you’re stronger than you know sweet girl! And they’ll have your eyes – yes, the Korean features will continue to live on through them. And they’ll look up to you, for advice and endless laughs because they love your jokes!

5. These experiences will help you learn …

that you have more strength than you know and you will begin to heal your broken heart. It’ll help you have more patience with yourself, be more loving and caring, because you are absolutely beautiful just the way you are. It’ll also remind you, that the only love you can crave for, is God’s. He won’t let you down, He won’t make you believe things that will turn out to be untrue. He’s there, He sees your pain, He sees your worries, He sees you the way I see you, such a beautiful soul, was broken and slowly is getting back on her feet. Because life is full of experiences, we learn from them and continue moving forward, not back.

Nominees:

Gods Whispers Of Truth

The Eclectic Contrarian

i Scriblr

Bereaved Single Dad

Sparkkling Thoughts

A Crack In The Pavement

Daily Grind Of A Stay At Home Mom

My Lil Place

Four Jordans

Simply Chronically Ill

Something To Stu Over

OJs Pride

Wonky Brain Blog

To all my nominees, I admire your strengths, your writings and look forward to reading your answers.
All my best.
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Reblog Wednesday: 7 Things We Can Learn From Jeff Bezos — Savvy 101 Life

I appreciate a good coming up journey. You know, the one where the person comes from nothing and is determined to make their dream a reality?! Because what’s a dream if not something that can come true – just a dream. It’s that mountain, that obstacle that needs to be moved in order for us to take that first step forward. Often times they refer to it as the push, that leap of faith, but whatever it is, people like Jeff Bezos are an example of the dream made a reality.

The post I share with you today is full of  interesting facts from the man behind Amazon. It is absolutely interesting and nothing short of amazing! And if you haven’t been to Savvy 101 Life, please go by, he’s full of inspirational posts, especially for that entrepreneur in us that’s itching to come out!

We often times have heard, ‘if I can do it, you can do it,’ well it’s true, it really is! I think there also differences between people like Jeff Bezos or Walt Disney or many others and the regular ‘Joe.’ They’ve had one idea that helped them rise in business and have had determination to see it become a reality.

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As many many know already, I started my YouTube channel not too long ago. What you may not have known, is that this has been years and years in the ‘thinking.’ Yes! What kept me from taking that step into creating the channel, well your guess is better than mine! But, fear is up there. It’s up there, along with self-doubt. If you’re thinking of starting your very own YouTube channel, my best advice to you would be, just start! You’ll never be fully ready and you’ll never build enough courage to begin, so just do it, and you’ll soon find your jitters settle. You’ll buy the necessary tools as you go, you’ll get things together and invest as you go as it’ll all happen with time.

I can’t even tell you what I had for lunch today, because my day is a little jammed with the good ‘ole mommy to do’s. But one thing that changed last month was my mind set. I began thinking one day of my ‘Nail File Friday’s’ here on the blog and thought about merging it into a YouTube channel and before I could second guess myself, I put the thought into work! I just started it one night. That one night has turned into 19 videos and counting. And I’m all for ‘hobbies’ and ‘having fun’ while doing something you love, but let me be honest, I have little ones still in diapers! So, while I’m having fun, I’m also thinking long term. My goal is to be able to profit off the channel, not tomorrow, nope – I give it a few years! However, the day will come when good ‘ole nail painting will bring this mama some green. Because saying otherwise would only be deceiving. Here’s to you making your dream a reality – big or small.

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The Richest Man In The World “The richest man in the world”, sounds great, right? But there’s more to say about Jeff Bezos than that well-earned nickname. It all started in 1994 with the decision of taking a step further from his already successful life. Jeff had an idea that wouldn’t let him sleep until […]

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