Reblog Wednesday: How to Set Boundaries with a Toxic Person — MakeItUltra™ Psychology

It’s rather a bit unsettling to think of the need to cut ties with someone. At times they’re friendships or even a family member. As I continue to grow, I’ve realized what I want, what I will accept and will not tolerate in friendships and overall relationships. I believe this to be an internal battle also because I was taught to love thy neighbor, to accept people as they are, and to love in the dimension of the cross. But what happens when others no longer serve a positive purpose in my life, when they no longer lift me, but rather break me. Please, don’t get me wrong, I absolutely believe we will have our moments with others when we will disagree, and we’ll forgive one another and move on. But what if this is recurring and happening constantly?! What if I consider myself a good friend and yet have come to realize a friendship in my life isn’t reciprocating the same level of love and respect for our friendship. You know, that one sided friendship, do you cut ties, do you call it quits or do you continue to accept their behavior?!

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This week I bring you this wonderful post on the matter by the very talented Dr. Perry over at Make It Ultra. He lists a few suggestions he uses in his practice on how to create healthy boundaries with others. He first mentions to be honest with the other person about your feelings, not adding to the negativity and not fearing the loss of a relationship that just feeds you negativity. If you haven’t read the full post, please stop by his blog!

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Written by Dr. Perry, PhD Image Credit: Pixabay “People inspire you or they drain you. Pick them wisely.” ~Hans F. Hansen We all know at least one person who seems to walk around in a state of doom and gloom. They are in short supply of joy but have an overabundance of negativity. This individual may […]

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Reblog Wednesday: I Asked God: A Facebook Post From A Friend — Something to Stu Over

This post for ‘Reblog Wednesday’ couldn’t have come at a better time. The thoughts of wanting to feel better physically are reoccurring thoughts, coming in too often throughout my day. And the fact that I can’t change my circumstance or diagnosis is evident in this post and is the perfect reminder of things I conveniently choose to forget. This ‘Reblog Wednesday’ is from a blogger I hold dear and near to my heart, Stuarthis honesty, love for Christ and life, is what I appreciate from reading his work. I couldn’t appreciate him more than I already do.

This post unraveled the truths of my reality. I can either learn to accept my reality or continue to live in the falsehood of reminiscing of what my life once was – life without the prescription medication and physical pain. It’s up to me. If I can only touch ground, ‘come back to Earth,’ as they say, and stop living in the clouds, I’d be able to open my eyes to see my life as it is. And perhaps only then will my sense of purpose fuel my desire to live a more happy and fulfilled life.

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The conversation with God in the post reminded me of my own conversations with God.

I  want to tell God what to fix in my life …

my diagnosis – fix it, reverse it,

my physical pain – take it away,

my old, ‘normal self’ – bring her back,

my finances – increase it,

my brain / head – make it stop spinning,

my son’s autism diagnosis – make it better,

my happiness – give me more of it.

And all the while, I’ve been praying for what I cannot change. He’s saying surrender, trust me, leave it to me as I do all things for a reason – beyond your humble comprehension. The reasons for it, all will be revealed in due time – patience. And love, love is what I need, it’s what I should be praying more for, so that I may accept my diagnosis with love, accept things that I will not be able to change.

The trials and tribulations are only there to get me away from worldly things and closer to Him.

Have a blessed day.

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I asked God to take away my habit. God said, No. It is not for me to take away, but for you to give it up. I asked God to make my handicapped child whole. God said, No.. His spirit is whole, his body is only temporary. I asked God to grant me patience. God […]

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Are You a Good Friend to Yourself? — MakeItUltra™ Psychology

This post I share with you today comes from Dr. Perry and it speaks on how loving yourself serves as a platform, sets the tone, as to how your friends will value your friendship in their lives. As I continue to grow older, I contemplate many times on the importance of self love and friendships. I also have come to understand that some friendships are not meant to remain in your life forever. This has even more truth when you live with Chiari Malformation + Syringomyelia, chronic pain is not for the faint of heart. And fortunately or not, you realize even more so when is the time to put an end on friendships that no longer serve well to your health and to your life in general. You know the friendships that bring on more stress than they do joy – those ‘friendships.’

I’ve realized that loving me, putting my feelings first, being compassionate for my own being, is far more important than any outside friendship. Because when you love yourself and know the value you bring as a friend when others don’t, I think that’s when it’s time to call it quits to a friendship that no longer brings positivity to your life and family. There will be a mourning period, but I simply wish them well and move on.

In this post here Dr. Perry, highlights the love and sympathy you should have for yourself, and asks, what kind of friend are you being to yourself? I think first and foremost be a friend to yourself to then know what to look for in friendships.

Written by Dr. Perry, PhD Image Credit: Pixabay “A friend is a gift you give yourself.” ~Robert Louis Stevenson What kind of friend are you? Are you attentive, kind and compassionate or, are you neglectful, uncaring and critical? Scrolling through quotes on the internet, I was reminded of the immense value we place on friendship. […]

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Reblog Wednesday: Gratitude — Tales from the Mama Duck

So, this here doesn’t require too many words. It left me speechless when I first read it and it’s leaving me speechless now. It’s so incredibly true, a picture is indeed ‘worth a thousand words.’ The post I share with you today is by the incredible blogger over at Family 5 Power – go over to her site and continue to enjoy her other incredible content!

Thank you Mama Duck for another reminder of the true meaning of Christmas.

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“Let us thank God for his priceless gift!” 2 Corinthians 15:9 GNT

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Happy Meme Monday: My Non-Christmas List

There’s always something that happens in life that makes you reevaluate future decisions. This is what has happened to me for Christmas, like the meme I share with you today.

The importance of this day has made me realize that this time of year isn’t about presents and giving out really fancy gifts. It’s not about stressing on how much money is enough or isn’t. It’s about spending time with those you love and making the most out of such a joyous occasion. So, if you don’t get to purchase something in form of an object to someone, don’t stress and know Christmas is far greater than any object you can purchase at a store.

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Happy Monday!

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Q & A Tag

Thank you so much Stuart for tagging me in this fun tag – it’ll be my very first and am excited to participate! If you haven’t read Stuarts answers to his tag you can find it here.

Here are the rules:

1. Answer the questions you receive (straight, funny, absurd, up to you)

2. Add three more questions of your own to the list

3. Tag three people

Here are the questions posed to me by Stuart:

1. If your life depended on your answer, would you deny Christ?

No. I hope that I have gained enough word as to not deny Him, not be so broken as to deny whom He has been in my life. I’ve seen Him many times, through my multiple surgeries, through my 4th child’s birth where we thought we’d lost her due to placenta previa, through my two youngest ones time in the ICU or intense care unit, following their births, through me finding an angel of a doctor being able and so willingly wanting to help me through my pregnancies. If you don’t know, all my little one’s have been born via c-section. And I continue to see His providence, everyday, with every meal my family shares at dinner time, that’s His hand over this family.

I think back on how Peter – by the way one of my boys is named Peter (meaning: rock upon where the church would be built), denied Jesus three times. It wasn’t because Peter was a coward, it was because he thought he would be protecting Jesus. However, God can take care himself just fine, He doesn’t need our protection. So, next time you or I are asked by a non-believer, a simple answer will do, something along the lines of, “I believe in Jesus and He is my Lord.”

2. Would you allow a stranger into your house to stay if you felt prompted by the Holy Spirit?

We actually have! I grew up having many brothers and sisters in the Lord staying with us as they traveled to Florida and had no place to stay. My mother opened her doors to them. Often times they were from abroad, sometimes one or married couples. She still does that to this day. She’ll also call me to have them stop by my house to introduce them to my family – it’s very sweet. I vividly remember this sweet Japanese couple staying with us, I may have been 9 or 10 years old. They had packed their chop sticks to eat, and boy did they eat! They later ‘told’ us that in Japan it is seen to be rude to not finish the food that you’ve been served. Of course, my mother would see their empty plates and assume they were hungry, and just kept serving and serving them! We had a language barrier that we were able to get through with hand gestures.

3. Why is Valentine’s Day so important when, if we truly love someone, we should be showering them with our love daily?

Valentine’s Day isn’t ‘important’ per se. We have taken in this holiday that is celebrated in this country, but we’ll usually get a few chocolates for the children and I’ll make them a card, and I’ll also make my husband a card. I agree, when you love and appreciate someone, everyday should be a day of love and celebration. I’m not only speaking in form of showering them with physical things, but serving them with much love and patience.

My Nominees:

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My Questions To You:

1. Do you have an ‘Elf On The Shelf,’ why or why not?

2. If you could give me one circumstance where you’ve seen the Lord, when was it?

3. How do you plan on celebrating this joyous season in your home with your families?

Thanks to my nominees in advance for participating! Know that I appreciate you and your ongoing support – always.

Ana

Reblog Wednesday: Steve Harvey Cries Out to God in His Struggles: “This Too Shall Pass. Trouble Don’t Last Always.” — GODINTEREST – Christian digital media website exploring faith, culture and life

I’ve been keeping this post as a reminder that hard times don’t last. And I’m not only speaking in regards to financial troubles, but in general. I’m speaking about the times when you don’t feel good about yourself, times when you feel defeated, times when you feel lonely, times when you feel unloved and unworthy, times when you feel like things just happen to you and times when you feel like things are just never going to change for you. Those times.

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I’ll touch more about this later, briefly though, last week I had a complete thyroidectomy – or complete and total removal of my thyroid gland. This will mark my tenth surgery. And as much as I dislike hospitals, the smell, the cold air, the white coats and surgical lights, this surgery here was needed – but aren’t they all! I mention this because I had many moments that I wanted to put into question, the whys were so tempting. The why me, the why am I here again, the why am I in my mid-thirties yet feel like I’m in my mid-eighties. Those whys. Yet I was reminded of God’s infinite mercy and love for me. That he’s given me for one, health insurance, two, a great team of doctors, three, a supportive family and four, he continues to touch my life in a way so that I can look back and know that he doesn’t forget me – he’s right there with me! Because I tend to forget about him, I deviate from his path the moment things don’t go my way. Yet he continues to be so faithful to me. I also realize that – like all things in life, I can either see my illness as a curse or a blessing. And today I choose to see my illness as a blessing.

So, when you feel like you’re the only one feeling like this, living in a very complex situation, trying to figure out something so out of your reach, trying to fix something that just can’t seem to be fixed, remember you’re not alone – he’s got you.

And as Steve Harvey put it so well ….

‘Faith will get you through it because God’s going to make it alright …. because trouble don’t last always.’

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failure is a great teacher, and I think when you make mistakes and you recover from them and you treat them as valuable learning experiences, then you’ve got something to share. – Steve Harvey

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