Reblog Wednesday: In Defense of Stay-At-Home Moms — Autism in Our Nest

As a stay at home mom whom didn’t stay home from the beginning, I must say the transition was rather smooth. I loved my position in the corporate world, but once I had my oldest, my heart yearned to be with her and raise her myself.

I came across this post from Autism Family Power where she mentions coming across an article where a working woman asks, “what do stay at home moms do all day?” The question wasn’t ill intended, but rather out of curiosity.

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I chuckled a bit and then had the sudden urge to detail and justify my role at home. However, each of us has different reasons for our decision to stay at home, and the role of a parent that stays in the home is like no other. His/her role comes without a financial earning, without breaks, days off and too often are running on fumes.

However, the internal satisfaction of making sure my kids are taken care of, taking care of my families daily needs and each of my children’s individual needs be it school or otherwise, is beyond any pay check I could ever receive. The ‘tasks/jobs’ are endless, from scheduling doctors appointments, to making sure my son is thriving in school since his autism diagnosis, to potty training – still doing it. The list goes on and on. All the while praying I am doing a good enough job at raising good, compassionate citizens. Also, caring for myself as I have Chiari 1 Malformation – a congenital disorder.

So, if you’re a stay at home parent or not, our goals are all the same. We’re all caring for our homes and our families needs to the best of our abilities, being in the corporate world or not.

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Recently I read an article where a woman asked Stay-At-Home Moms what they did all day. At first I got defensive, but changed my mood. Read more about this, here!

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Reblog Wednesday: It’s Ok To Have A Bad Day — MakeItUltra™

I share with you today a post from Dr. Perry. It’s such a reassuring post, full of truth and honesty – a must read!

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As a stay at home mom, let alone mom, I too often feel the pressures of being the ‘perfect’ mom and meeting societies expectations of their definition of a mom. This is far too difficult and overwhelming. I can say that these thoughts are also due to judgmental parents, parents wanting to scrutinize other parents, while they themselves don’t have their [bleep] together. The stress that comes from these thoughts and the constant wanting to be ‘on top’ of everything and trying to go the ‘extra’ mile to try to make others perceive that I am that ‘perfect’ mother can be too much. It’s also close to impossible for me to physically do that because of the chronic pain that comes from living with Chiari + Syringomyelia. I do try remind myself to be easy, loving, and patient, but self motivation can be hard on days where optimism is nowhere in sight.

I believe in having a good laugh as well as having a good cry. In being present and acknowledging your emotions. It’s not being negative, it’s being honest. It’s also not going by what the world expects from you, it’s what you believe to be what’s right for you. It’s also not pushing your body to the point where it retaliates and begins shut down. In my opinion sadness is also needed to truly appreciate when we are happy. How would you know happiness if you haven’t felt sadness?! These sad days will also be some that won’t last for long. And as Dr. Perry pointed out, balance.

We need balance in our lives, everything in our lives are teaching moments, take those moments and learn from them.

Also, knowing what to take on and what not, knowing what things are best to let go, because somethings are just not worth the emotional turmoil.

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By Dr. Perry, PhD “Bad times have a scientific value. These are occasions a good learner would not miss.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson I believe in maintaining a positive attitude in my life. But I also acknowledge that life is not perfect. It is impossible to live your life in an inexhaustible positive state of mind […]

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Happy Meme Monday: Parenting + The Hunger Games

If there’s one thing I’ve learned about parenting is not to judge someone else’s parenting –  speaking about toddlers especially. Have you heard the saying, ‘terrible twos’?! Yes, they were wrong, there’s the terrible twos, threes and fours. Maybe even beyond, but who am I to judge?!

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Have you been present when a mom – or dad, is clearly struggling with their child, you know, and then you see the parent trying to kneel down to the child’s level, whispering in the child’s ear, all in hopes the child listens, only to land on deaf ears?! I know the feeling. I’ve seen that, I’ve experienced that, and it all can be a bit brutal!

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Here’s to supporting one another in parenthood in this task of raising our children and surviving the process.

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Nail File Friday’s: Neon Yellow + Gray Nail Art

I’ve been in search for the perfect neon yellow color, you know that really bright yellow, possibly glow in the dark, possibly border line in-your-face yellow, yes, that one! At a recent trip for new nail polish, I came across this beauty from Orly, so vibrant and with the clear top coat, it just makes it even more amazing! With nail art, the idea is not to do anything overly complicated because as a mom, I know, as beautiful as nail art is, I don’t have time for anything overly intricate. And when picking nail polish colors, get out of your comfort zone, try something new and try new shades – you won’t regret it!

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Nail Polish Used: Orly Road Trippin (neon yellow) and Essie Chinchilly (gray)

Nail Tools UsedNail Brush and the French Manicure Stickers – Mix Styles I used the thick straight lined sticker for the pinkie finger. They’ll work as an easy guide for nail art or you can use scotch tape.

Steps For Nail Art:

Step One:  1 Coat of ‘Seche’ Base Coat

Step Two: I painted all the fingers, excluding the ring finger, in gray. Allow the nail polish to completely dry – these stickers are really sticky so you need to be sure the nail polish is completely dry before you apply the sticker to begin the nail art. To achieve the angled nail art on the thumb, you can use the nail labels or scotch tape to help you achieve a straight line – remove it while the polish is still wet, clean up the sides of the nail by simply dipping the nail brush in acetone, after each nail. For the pinkie finger – allow the gray to dry completely, and then with a nail sticker, place it in the middle, pressing gently on the sides of the nail and using the neon yellow, paint over the entire nail, including the label, you can do two coats, depending the amount of yellow coverage you want – remove the label while the yellow polish is still wet.

…. Allow the nail art to completely dry to avoid smudging ….

Step Three:  1 Coat of ‘Out The Door’ Top Coat

This is optional ….

‘Cuccio’ Cuticle Oil – Milk & Honey  – Cuticle oil will avoid your cuticles from drying that can happen from the nail acetone, it helps keep your cuticles moisturized.

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Nail File Friday’s: Light Blue + Gray Layered Nail Art

If you saw last weeks nail look you’ll see that this is a similar nail art, only this one is layered. I wanted to keep the same idea while incorporating something different but still keeping it all easy to achieve. The idea of these ‘Nail File Friday’s’ series is to do just that, give you easy and quick ideas that you can recreate yourself at home. As a busy mom, that’s what I’m always looking for!

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Essie Nail Polish Used: Essie Find Me An Oasis (light blue), Chinchilly (gray) and Beyond Cozy (glitter) but this is the next best thing Social-Lights (shimmer)

Nail Tools UsedNail Brush and Dotter, you can use Avery Reinforcement Labels or even tape, also try these French Manicure Stickers – Mix Styles they’ll work as an easy guide for nail art.

Steps For Nail Art:

Step One:  1 Coat of ‘Seche’ Base Coat

Step Two: I painted the ring fingers with glitter. I did the angled nail art by first applying a coat of the light blue nail polish – you can use labels or tape to help you achieve a straight line, remove it while the polish is still wet, clean up the sides of the nail by simply dipping the nail brush in acetone, after each nail. Allow the polish to dry and then apply a coat of the gray nail polish – at an angle as well, leave a tiny bit of the light blue showing to achieve the layered nail polish look.

Tip For Layered Polish: I’ve found that doing the lighter color in the bottom will allow for a better look – light blue on the bottom and gray on top.

…. Allow the nail art to completely dry to avoid smudging ….

Step Three:  1 Coat of ‘Out The Door’ Top Coat

This is optional ….

‘Cuccio’ Cuticle Oil – Milk & Honey  – Cuticle oil will avoid your cuticles from drying that can happen from the nail acetone, it helps keep your cuticles moisturized.

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Happy Meme Monday: Let’s Compare Headaches

If you or someone you know has Chiari Malformation or any other illness that is followed by chronic pain, you know the hard task of having to explain the illness to people. That dreaded moment of having to explain how you feel, how it affects your life,  sometimes even after you’ve told these same people that your illness has no cure – multiple times! Not to mention trying really hard to tell them about your pain levels, headaches and what you have to live with, in such a way that won’t scare the Jesus out of them!

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It doesn’t stop there, because even after you’ve explained the type of pounding headaches you have, they then proceed to tell you about their headaches. Because they think it compares to yours and how sharing that with you somehow will comfort you – yes, this meme is for you!

Happy Monday.

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Searching For A Sign

I often get so many thoughts running through my mind and maybe you can relate. These thoughts of wanting to do something else, something more, maybe learn a new language or perhaps learn a new recipe. As for me I think with the blog and the online store I have, is enough considering there are still little ones to look after. But really, there’s always that one thing, that thing that we think we should be doing, should have done or goal yet to be reached. And all you’ve been doing is waiting, waiting for something, perhaps God to come and give you a sign. Perhaps because you’re not sure, you have self doubt, you’re afraid, afraid of failure or afraid of success, but you’re afraid. So, let’s say, you do it, whatever you’ve been thinking of doing, a job change, going back to school, yes, lets just say you do it. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to finally do what you’ve been thinking about doing for so long?!

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This often reminds me of those who have been stuck in a rut for so long. We become content with what we have because it’s become our safe place and it’s what we’ve known for so long. In my opinion, the number one culprit in relationships, is the argument of never having enough money, you complain there isn’t enough, but I often question, what are we doing to change that, what are we doing to get to the finances that we need to finally ‘make ends meet.’ In all honesty, probably nothing. So, if you’re a mother, a father or simply someone that’s looking to take that leap – take it! It’ll take you farther than you know.

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