Dear 15 Year Old Me – Tag

This is so incredibly exciting! This is something that Everyday Magic With Jubilee and I have been working on for a few days, e-mailing back and forth, trying to create a wonderful tag for you all. Thank you Jubilee for trusting me and joining me in creating this phenomenal tag – I’ve enjoyed the process!

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve often times looked back, either that is on positive or negative decisions I made at the tender age of fifteen. This tag helped me dig a little deeper at what my life was like, things I went through and what I would tell the old me – all these years later. The one thing that absolutely stands out is a heartbreak I experienced at such a young age. I met a boy at fifteen, I thought we’d be in each others lives for the long run, and boy was I wrong! It’s one of those things you experience – some you wish you hadn’t, and heartbreak – at any age, but especially at a young age, can be devastating. And so here through the tag I’ll look back and I’ll share some details on that, and give the fifteen year old me some words of encouragement.

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Rules:

•  Post the tag and image above.

•  Mention the creators of the tag and link back to their blog.

This tag was created by Everyday Magic With Jubilee and Mom Life With Chiari. You can click on the highlighted names to check out more inspirational posts from their blogs. Make sure to tag them in your post so that they can read your letters of encouragement.

•  Thank whoever nominated you and link back to their blog.

•  Nominate 5 other bloggers that you love and notify them by commenting on their latest blog post.

Often times we may wish that we could go back in time and give our former selves advice and words of wisdom. If you could go back in time, what would advice or encouragement would you give to yourself?

Dear 15 year old me,

1. Don’t be hard on yourself because …

true beauty isn’t on the number you wear. Your beauty shines from within. Try healthier alternatives to losing weight, you’ve dropped down to a size 0 and are having to buy new clothes due to rapid drop in weight – I see you, and although the world celebrates a thin body, it’s making you sick. You’ll be blessed that this will only last but a short time and you’ll be saddened by what you made your body go through. Don’t be so hard on yourself, the decision to once again enjoy eating will be a great one!

2. The relationship you’re in ….

isn’t going to be forever. I see you, don’t be saddened by this. You know the words that were said, the moments that were shared, none were meant to last forever. Don’t fall so hard, I see you. You’re loving, you’re investing so much of your time, your heart, your everything, you’re risking it all, is he?! I see you, you’re believing and hanging on to his every word, I know it’s hard, to believe things won’t turn out the way he’s saying but, trust me, one day he won’t think about anyone but himself. I see you, wanting not to believe me now, but trust me, the ring, the endless flowers with handwritten notes, the album you both made together with moments shared now printed for a forever, he drew your names on the inside, I see you! Yes, it’s hard to believe that the future that you both speak about often will only be nothing more than that – spoken words. I see you, not believing me again, I know! But trust me when I tell you, that when he makes his plans to leave on vacation to his homeland, don’t give away what’s most precious, God loves you sweet girl, don’t do it! God loves you far more than this boy ever will. Why are you risking so much?! I see you, giving your heart out, is he? Oh I know his family is amazing, but does he think you are too?! You’re so much more than you know sweet girl, and a man that loves you will value you until the end. I see you, does he?

3. You will get through this because …

you are stronger than you think you are, you just don’t know it yet. You’ll run into many walls because you’re so angry and hurt by the break up – don’t be, stop and mourn! If you don’t mourn, you will continue to be angry and on a path to self destruction, it isn’t your fault it didn’t work out, it never was, I see you! Thinking you’ve lost years of yourself, you’ve lost your heart, you think you made a fool out of yourself – don’t! Somethings are worth risking and sometimes heartbreak comes in different forms, I know, I’m sorry it happened too. But stop what you’re doing and dig deep in yourself to overcome these feelings, because living in darkness will do nothing but destroy you. You’re working by day and being angry at night. You’re upset thinking that you’re alone in your feelings, and no one understands the loss that you’ve experienced! A pregnancy will come out of your actions, this is what God has in His plans for you, to save you! Otherwise, you will continue down the wrong path and you will thank your baby girl everyday for being such a sweet girl.

4. Don’t get caught up in thinking …

you are weak, you’re not! Believing something someone says doesn’t make you weak, or naive, it makes you in tune with your feelings, it makes you a risk taker, you risked it all! You will slowly begin to restore the faith you had in men and you will slowly begin to open your heart again. You will go through so much, you will be diagnosed with a rare illness, Chiari Malformation + Syringomyelia – 1 in 1,000 people have it, because you’re so strong! I see you, you don’t believe you can take on this illness, but you will – with all the strength you have in you! You’ve dealt with the news as best as you could, being positive and praying for strength – you’ve got strength! You’ll also be a mom to six little ones, I know – how amazing! That doctor that told you today you weren’t going to be able to carry a child due to the state of your ovaries, God is far greater than any of that! Don’t take the medication, God’s going to heal you and you will carry not one child, but six. You’ll be criticized, judged, and persecuted for having your babies but have courage, because they’re your gifts from Him. You’ll have six c-sections, I told you, you weren’t weak, you’re stronger than you know sweet girl! And they’ll have your eyes – yes, the Korean features will continue to live on through them. And they’ll look up to you, for advice and endless laughs because they love your jokes!

5. These experiences will help you learn …

that you have more strength than you know and you will begin to heal your broken heart. It’ll help you have more patience with yourself, be more loving and caring, because you are absolutely beautiful just the way you are. It’ll also remind you, that the only love you can crave for, is God’s. He won’t let you down, He won’t make you believe things that will turn out to be untrue. He’s there, He sees your pain, He sees your worries, He sees you the way I see you, such a beautiful soul, was broken and slowly is getting back on her feet. Because life is full of experiences, we learn from them and continue moving forward, not back.

Nominees:

Gods Whispers Of Truth

The Eclectic Contrarian

i Scriblr

Bereaved Single Dad

Sparkkling Thoughts

A Crack In The Pavement

Daily Grind Of A Stay At Home Mom

My Lil Place

Four Jordans

Simply Chronically Ill

Something To Stu Over

OJs Pride

Wonky Brain Blog

To all my nominees, I admire your strengths, your writings and look forward to reading your answers.
All my best.
A-

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Mom Life With Chiari

Living with Chiari 1 Malformation and Syringomyelia since 2013.

63 thoughts on “Dear 15 Year Old Me – Tag”

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  9. This is totally awesome! What a wonderful tag you have co-created Ana! I loved the advice you gave yourself 🙂

    Thank you so much for nominating me to participate in this. I will do my best…35 years ago is a long time..lol. I will get to it as fast as I can 🙂

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  14. Congratulations and thank you for creating such an amazing and thoughtful tag! Loved reading your experiences and of course your advice! This tag is a beautiful learning journey! Thank you so much dear Ana for tagging me and making me a part of this tag!!

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    1. You’re welcome Kranti! Thank you so much as well, I’m so glad you’ve enjoyed reading it. Yes, I agree, life’s a journey, it has its ups and downs but the joinery is well worth it. There are always brighter day ahead, even through the chaos, there are brighter days after the storm.
      Yes, most definitely, I’m looking forward to reading your answers! 😊🙏🏽

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      1. Ana I am feeling better as I have been doing physiotherapy for just over a month now. Exercises 3 times a day when I can do them. They are working to stretch the muscles and scar tissues that are building up. Inside I am very happy as always as God made this to help me grow as a person.

        Yes, learning about each other is always a great method on social media. Thanks again for sharing those thoughts and facts with us all.

        I know it is almost time to go do another round of exercises. Have an awesome afternoon and evening down there Ana !!

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      3. Yes, it is tough at times. It is very beneficial for me since I started. My arms, shoulders and chest keep improving which is all this is for.

        Thank you for the reply back Ana. Have an awesome day !!

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      4. That’s amazing, I’m sure! After my brain surgery in 2013, I had to re-learn how to do it all, walk, dress myself, brush my teeth, how to lift my foot, walk, go up and down steps, it was brutal! But it helped me so very much!
        Hang in there James. 😊🙏🏽

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      1. You are so right and living with teenagers it is quite a ride………I will tag you but it may be months before I get to it as I am not spending as much time on the blog due other stuff going on. Blessings to you and thank you again Ana.

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  22. Absolutely beautiful Chiari. I loved reading your responses. My favorite part was hearing you say that God would always be there. “It’ll also remind you, that the only love you can crave for, is God’s. He won’t let you down, He won’t make you believe things that will turn out to be untrue. He’s there, He sees your pain, He sees your worries, He sees you the way I see you.” This is something I wish I could tell my younger self as well. Thank you for sharing your heart! and thank you so much for doing this tag with me:)

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